"It is easier to be angry than it is to be sad."
--The Adam Project

Anger should be processed, not just understood


Synonym for "slight anger":


/ being irritated

"Showing or feeling slight anger; annoyed."


Differentiate from:



Signal & Message


"In the voice, anger generates a roar if not controlled; when anger is controlled, the voice may have a sharp edge that is very detectable. In the face, the signal includes glaring eyes, lowered brows and narrowed, tightened lips. When people hear or see an angry signal, they are typically hurt just by the perception of the signal, and may retaliate with angry actions."


"The message of anger is “get out of my way.” Anger can carry a message ranging from dissatisfaction to threat."

States of Anger

State of Anger (possible intensity)

Annoyance (1-2)

"Very mild anger caused by a nuisance or inconvenience."


"Eine schwache Form des Ärgers, oft als Unannehmlichkeit empfunden."


"Enojo muy leve."

Frustration (1-10)

"A response to repeated failures to overcome an obstacle."

Ärgerlich Sein

"Ensteht durch wiederholte Mißerfolge."


"Respuesta tras no haber podido superar un obstáculo pese a repetidos intentos."

Exasperation (4-7)

"Anger caused by a repeated or strong nuisance."


"Wird verursacht durch wiederholte Enttäuschung."


"Pérdida de paciencia ante repetidos fracasos para resolver un problema."

Argumentativeness (2-10)

"A tendency to engage in disagreements."


"Eine Neigung, sich an Meinungsverschiedenheiten zu beteiligen."

Propensión a discutir

"Inclinación a prolongar los desacuerdos."

Bitterness (3-10)

"Anger after unfair treatment."


"Ärger nach unfairer Behandlung."


"Decepción porque nadie quiso resolver un problema."

Vengefulness (5-10)

"Desire to retaliate after one is hurt."


"Das Verlangen nach Vergeltung, nachdem man verletzt wurde."


"Deseo de tomar represalias."

Fury (10)

"Uncontrolled and often violent anger."


"Unkontrollierter und oft mit Gewalt einhergehender Zorn."


"Enojo Intenso."




"Anger is an emotion, not a decision."-MB


Anger should be processed, not just understood

Anger has a bad reputation. I believe this is unjustified.

Anger conveys an important message or information about the fact that there is something wrong or something unfair.

Neither acting out anger nor pushing it aside will ever resolve it.

Understanding what is behind the anger is good, but not sufficient - like the understanding of all emotions, in general, helps little and may even distract from the actual work that has to happen.

Processing anger by using adequate techniques will not only resolve the anger but also reveal a new layer of one's Emotional Structure. This process comes with the bonus of the occasional cognitive revelation as well.

The emotion of anger is adequate when something that the person experienced or experiences is ...

... painful

i.e. "wrong"

... unjust

/ unfair


The absence of anger in a situation where being angry would be justified from an external point of view often (not always) indicates a certain level of numbness.

Emotional Numbness

It is important to move past the anger when processing emotions - not suppressing the anger.

The mere expression of anger does not change/process the anger (except for in very specific cases).

The idea of "letting the anger out" is a myth.

It works only under rare circumstances.

Anger can be destructive.

... when it is unprocessed, i.e. when it does not change.

Anger can usually be associated with a specific experience.

Anger frequently results from helplessness experienced at the same time with emotional pain (for example injustice). The helplessness is rooted in the inability to end or change a situation that was/is causing emotional pain.


(Emotional) Pain

"Anger Management" is already a bad wording. Anger should cannot be managed. It can only be processed

Processing (of Emotions)


Anger is always destructive.

Having a physical/verbal outlet for the anger will reduce the anger.

Processing Anger

When processing emotions, the state of anger is highly constructive and constitutes an important opportunity.



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